Better Focus, Better Life: 6 Meaningful Sites to Feed the Soul

We spend  a lot of time on the Internet. And too much of that time spent is aimless browsing on social media channels, and websites that lack meaning that may even reduce our self-esteems or “deplete our energy.” With constant images of celebrity, why we should date whom and when, and so many other “things” to consume, all this trending stuff can get overwhelming.  

So here’s a cheat sheet of sites that can help grow self-awareness, offer healthy eating tips, and insightful info to boot:

The Elephant Journal

Article titles like “You Are the Universe” are not written to boost ego, but instead to remind us how to connect  to a greater consciousness.  Awareness is integral to give life meaning, and a reminder of where  to direct focus to transform our everyday into what we want. These dreams are not of the ethereal “Am I awake” nature. They are to be manifested.  What do you dream of? See if you can’t find common ground or a supportive voice on Elephant Journal, a leading wellness journal with drop down menus on yoga and food. Bookmark this website to attract infinite possibilities for personal growth.

The Collective Evolution

The title says it all.  While there may be some bad news on cheese and its overpowering influence, the site’s ultimate goal is to expand how we think. Science, Tech, Lifestyle and Health are just some of the topics covered in this comprehensive website.  Their aim is to create change by raising consciousness.  “Plus-Sized Yogi Is Showing The World That Body Weight Is Just A State Of Mind,” for example shows the website to be both encompassing and forward-focused.


Hello, beautiful!  Every woman should find the right combination of items to enhance her beauty. It allows us to feel more comfortable and more confident. Organaca offers sustainable beauty products that won’t comprise health or the environment. They’re also super high quality! Products like skin and hair serums with ingredients that can be pronounced(such as  frankincense oil) are just a couple examples of what’s available on the site.

My New Roots

This one is for the foodies.  A site written by a holistic nutritionist with a love for whole foods and photography, the site offers “edible inspirations” and a display of founder Sarah B’s  love for whole foods. The food photography is gorgeous, the recipes decadent and plant-based, and the cookbook library illuminating. Prepare for the side effect of a healthy glow after trying one of Sarah B’s artisan recipes.

Everyday Feminism

For every progressive woman  Everyday Feminism should be the go-to source. Their mission is big and, trust, you want to be a part of it. With tag lines like Fem 101, Privilege, LGBQTIA, and Race, the site aims to dismantle discrimination through compassionate activism. You will be informed, and inspired to take action. They even offer a course in self-love–makes me want to jump back and kiss myself–muah!


This is a marketplace.  For artisans and entrepreneurs working to gain added exposure, Ahalife is the “universal sound of discovery.” The website hosts an extensive list of curators, including Iman, Deepak Chopra, and Bobbie Brown who select items with a unique consumer in mind.  But the goal is not to just buy, right?  You can also sell your wares on this well-cultivated site with an audience of over 45 countries.  AHAlife believes in conscious  consumption, not basic e-commerce. Check out the profile on entrepreneur Shauna Mei who went from from Goldman Sachs intern to Ahalife CEO and founder. Now that’s Alpha.



5 Reasons Why it’s Important to Fail

Recently, I had a discussion with a woman about the notion of failure. She said that she once attended a women’s workshop and one of the topics for conversation was failure, the key question being, “If you knew you could ‘never fail’ what would you do?” This question (and most questions like this) says something to me.  Is it the actual event that constitutes failure, or rather does failure relate to feelings of rejection associated with not reaching a specific goal? Likely both of these problems work in tandem with one another to create a pretty big anxiety cocktail.

Award-winning writer Francesca Lia Block recently wrote a blog entry to discuss her fear of rejection, particularly with respect to the rising popularity of the Internet.

One of the hardest things about being an artist is putting your soul on the line to be scrutinized and criticized. When I began my career this felt a little less risky than it does today; with the wonder of the Internet, came a lot more vulnerability for the artist. My parents taught me to express myself without censorship or judgment and this philosophy carried me through for many years.

She goes on to encourage her writing students to execute fearlessness in all that they do–fear of failure should never be a barrier.

What people, especially women (as we tend to be VERY hard on ourselves), *fail* (pun intended) to think about is that failure is as subjective as success. Also, without failure, how can there be success? Kinda like, without some perceived bad in the world, how can we allot other events/experiences as being good?! Now I’m not attempting to get too deeply philosophical but it’s food for thought.

Failure, whether perceived or not, should never prevent one from going out for his/her dreams. Ever. In fact, without failure success likely will remain out in the ether as an unachievable thing. Trust me, and here’s why:

Failure is Integral for Growth

Time and time again entrepreneurs, thought leaders, and motivational speakers discuss how they were once looked upon as useless. Some of these people include the likes of Oprah Winfrey, Vera Wang and even Albert Einstein.  People often forget how in the wake of failure there’s opportunity for reflection. What went wrong? What other methodologies could be considered for the future? Because of failure, subsequent attempts at a goal are made with knowledge gained from the previous failure. People can also self-reflect after failure; there’s a chance for internal and spiritual growth. Why did this fail? Am I on the right path? We need intellectual and emotional growth.

Going back to the bit about reflecting on what went wrong. In this process, our minds become sharper and more aligned with our creative sides. Coming at a problem from multiple angles necessitates creative thought, and within that creative thought new ideas can be borne. Maybe the original goal was not meant to be–maybe something cooler and more innovative is on the horizon. Arriving at this awesome realization/goal cannot be possible without failure first. The evolution of skill, idea, and ability cannot happen without a bit of free falling!

Failure Grows Confidence

We all know the saying once you fall to get right back up, right? If we didn’t, would we have ever learned how to walk? Would we know how to read, ride bikes, or drive cars? Think about it. Failure, and fear of failure really boils down to perspective. I didn’t learn how to ride a bike until I was 14 years old!! I was afraid of falling. Once I did fall (a LOT) eventually I was riding my bike here, there, and everywhere. I moved to Los Angeles to act and model in 2006, complete with a three year contract. Ultimately, I didn’t become famous and realized I loved to write more than to act. Some (usually of the negative persuasion) may say I “failed” at this dream or “didn’t make it.” No way!! Simply because one’s dreams evolve or reshape does not constitute failure or not making it. In fact, my many years of getting rejected at auditions for roles but booking others molded me into the *mostly* confident young woman I am today. Not only can failure make us more confident in what we do, but it also can make us more confident in how we do it, why we do it, and within ourselves.

Failure Creates Humility 

Ever meet that person at the bar (or wherever) who cockily states how he/she landed their perfect lover after the first date, or had no problems booking a part (we’re in L.A. after all) or landing a job? Do these types of people interest you? For me, the road of Hard Knocks brings a lot more to the table, and generally speaking, people who have lived a lot and fallen down even more are as generous as they are humble. Perhaps the stories of instant success can make some want to rush out and start grappling for achievement. But that’s really not how life works (and quite likely, the boastful person has exaggerated his/her path to “#winning”). It’s the people who endure tough times, suffer rejection, yet learn how to get back up and keep plugging away who are confident, but also humble who have truly achieved. They’re the role models to look for guidance and mentorship.

Failure Gives Inspiration

People I look to for inspiration are those who crawled long, hard paths to reach their dreams. They are generous, vulnerable, and self-assured without being cocky. When we fail, we create new opportunities not only for ourselves but for others. All of our hardships can be seeds for creative thought, better ideas, new life paths, but also inspiration for people we come into contact with. Goals don’t have to be huge, and we don’t necessarily have to be famous or # 1 to have achieved success. But we must keep going. Let failure be inspiration to your soul and your aspirations. Accept barriers as blocks to cut through or drive around, not permanent blockades.

So fail, fail, and fail again–you’ll be a better person for it.